Fear, uncertainty, and doubt, or FUD, is often used legitimately by businesses and organizations to make consumers stop, think, and change their behavior. FUD is so powerful that it’s capable of nuking the competition.”
I am lying on my back and trapped in a gleaming white tunnel, the surface barely six inches from my nose. There is a strange mechanical rumbling in the background, and I hear footsteps padding around the room beyond. In my mounting claustrophobia, I ask myself why I am here – but there is no way out now. A few moments later, the light dims, and as the man speaks, my thoughts begin to fade.
“The engineer has developed a way of taking control of your thoughts from the inside. He does this because he is fascinated by mind control, and wants to apply the most direct method of controlling your thoughts. He is doing this to advance his research into mind control. You will soon be aware of the engineer inserting his thoughts.”
A strange serenity descends as I realise that soon, my will won’t be my own. Then the experiment begins. I am about to be possessed.
“People forget that geniuses represent fewer than 1% of all creators in a discipline. Hence, creators as a whole can have higher mental health than the general population even when vulnerability to psychopathological symptoms increases as one moves to the genius end of the distribution.”
“People don’t break wind in elevators more than they have to. Venting anger is an emotional expression. It’s similar to emotional farting in a closed area. It sounds like a good idea, but it’s dead wrong.”
Apologizing unnecessarily puts women in a subservient position and makes people lose respect for them, says executive coach and radio host Bonnie Marcus. Sylvia Ann Hewlett, founder of the Manhattan-based think tank, Center for Talent Innovation and author of Executive Presence: The Missing Link Between Talent and Success, says using “sorry” frequently undermines our gravitas and makes them appear unfit for leadership.
It’s not like women don’t know it’s a bad habit. So, why do they do it?
“The habit of going home to your spouse and debriefing them is very intuitive for a lot of people,” says Peter Shallard, a business psychology expert who focuses on entrepreneurs, but it’s a bad idea.
First, “being stuck in your own work problems is a form of self-indulgence,” and second, rehashing a work problem will “stimulate us to mentally regress back to that afternoon when we had that problem.”
Instead, ask your family members (or friends or roommates) about their days, and challenge yourself to be a good listener. Focusing on other people and their needs is a great way to get out of your own head.
What happens when you’re young, accomplished, and making a decent salary but feel like you aren’t making a difference? You turn to our experts, that’s what. Leadership coach Lolly Daskal and Psychologist Art Markman offer their advice on how to get out of a rut and answer one of life’s biggest questions.
“Stress makes people risk-averse, and it makes them more short-sighted, in the sense that they are more likely to make decisions that benefit them sooner than in the long term. That may put a limit on how much you are willing to invest in the future, in terms of health care, education, and so on.”
“When the menu is on the screen and you’re hungry, you add a side dish. You click, its ready to go. Over the phone you just order what you set out to. We see way less impulse purchases of appetizers over the phone. We also see a lot more upsells, items like street cart fries are two bucks extra with the meal because it’s in front of you.”
“Psychologists have some theories. The leading one is known as the “information-gap” theory. George Loewenstein, of Carnegie Mellon, believes that curiosity proceeds in two basic steps: First, a situation reveals a painful gap in our knowledge (that’s the headline), and then we feel an urge to fill this gap and ease that pain (that’s the click).”