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Leadership: Emblems of Success

| posted by Ruth Sherman

I was driving around my town the other day, one of those upscale places where there are a lot of nice cars. I stopped at the local ice cream place and noticed an unusual car parked on the street in front of me. My husband pointed out that it was a Bentley, the Continental GT, a sporty version of that venerable brand. Apparently it’s the least expensive of the Bentley line, priced at $150,000.

From time to time, we also see the occasional Ferrari or Maserati (usually during the summer, rarely parked and much more expensive than the Bentley) and there are loads of BMWs and Mercedes (they’re parked all over the place). Almost every other car that I haven’t mentioned so far is late model and nice.

Such cars are emblems and increasingly the type of thing we use to delineate and display our status without showing the bank account. And not just the car, but where and even if it gets parked, marks the driver either as someone who is of such sufficient status that a scratch, ding or dent is no big deal or someone who isn’t. Homes are also emblems and clothes are, too. For women, the latest “it” bag or Jimmy Choos or Manolos are emblems. For men, a popular emblem is a wristwatch, which, at a certain level, must be Swiss (think Yo-Yo Ma and his Rolex). Sometimes it’s jewelry, big jewels (I call them “headlights”) – for both men and women, though often it’s the woman wearing the jewels and the man wearing the woman. Or maybe it’s vice-versa. All emblems.

Emblems can certainly be less precious and say even more about us than our level of success. Think about walking down the street with a Starbucks in hand or carrying the latest cell/PDA (iPhone anyone?). What about computers? Are you a Microsoft or Mac person? As a long-time Mac user, I can clearly remember early on when people who owned Macs were viewed as somehow lower-status, less technologically savvy, not to be taken seriously as business people as those who tussled with Windows. Perceptions change (and we Mac fans always knew they would).

Even the field you’re in is an emblem. Think about how you may view people who are in technology and wear jeans and T-shirts to work vs. how you view someone who is in a job that requires they dress in a suit and tie. Do you get your shoes shined? I was up at a New York law firm last week and the shoeshine person actually set up her stand in the hall. So some people do.

What’s on your iPod? Do you even have one? Is it rock, country, alternative, orchestral, opera? Maybe you enjoy them all.

Cars don’t do it for me. I drive a plain-vanilla Toyota Camry with a 4-cylinder engine, comfy, reliable and good on gas. I desperately need a new watch (have you seen the new TX line from Timex?). My engagement ring still has the small diamond that my husband could afford at the time. These are certainly also emblems that say something about me.

I do splurge on clothes and recently bought myself a gorgeous and very expensive Italian suit. I’m planning to wear it this week for the first time and really looking forward to that. What do I hope it communicates about me? Smart, chic, sophisticated, together and, of course, successful would do nicely.

How are you marked? What are your emblems of success?

Ruth Sherman • Ruth Sherman Associates, LLC • Greenwich, CT • www.ruthsherman.com

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October 24, 2007 at 12:42am

Andre

People see the loft that I live in as a status symbol. They figure that it's a sign of wealth. I just see it as living out a childhood dream.

I've become a bigger fan of enjoying the memories than I am of rushing for the status symbols. Maybe I'm just weird.

October 24, 2007 at 5:12pm

Steve

I don't understand. Did you intend to write about "Emblems of Conspicuous Consumption"?. Examining how to publicly display your success seems like putting the cart before the horse, and pretty tacky. Successful people I know are influential, intelligent, and driven.

What are Warren Buffett's emblems of success? I'd rather follow his example than sporting an expensive phone, designer suits, and downing expensive drinks.

Weak post.

October 24, 2007 at 7:41pm

Ruth Sherman

Andre, I think everything we do or buy communicates something about us, whether it's a car, watch, or loft. While you may not view it as a status symbol per se, you do refer to it as living out a childhood dream. Dreams tend to be about aspiring to something bigger, more.

If you think of it this way, it's easier to understand that others who may aspire to the same "childhood dream" you did might easily interpret it as a symbol of your wealth. And why not? There's nothing wrong with it. We all make choices.

The most important thing to bear in mind is that all these choices are largely under our control. Just takes thought. So you're not weird at all. You're just human! Welcome to the club.

October 30, 2007 at 4:35pm

Ruth Sherman

I get what you're saying, Steve. Would that we were all Warren Buffet who is a terrific role model in so many ways. I don't know what Buffet's emblems are but he surely has them.

As I discussed in the post, everything we do or wear or live in or buy communicates something about us. While some of it is tacky. A lot is not. It all depends on where you draw the line.

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