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Leading Ideas: The Positive Power of Discontent

| posted by Fast Company staff
"Discontent is the first step in the progress of a man or a nation." -- Oscar Wilde (1854-1900) Irish writer

I hadn't looked through Pema Chodron's books in years until I came across them while packing my office for a move this week. She's a buddhist nun and an internationally renown expert on using tough situations for growth. In When Things Fall Apart she recounts a powerful story of when her husband told her he was cheating on her. At the time she physically attacked him. But years later she grew to realize that he saved her life. As she tells it, the anger she felt transformed her. It forced her to wake up and change.

Something to consider:

Discontent isn't negative. Rather, it's a powerful catalyst for positive change. If you're unhappy, pissed off, or angry, go with it. Use it to your advantage. Use it to get curious about your challenges. Use it to experiment with new opportunities and solutions. Change something.

Something to try:

1. List some things you're not content with.
2. Pick one you'd most like to change.
3. Be a detective. Start to uncover how the situation got to where it is.
4. Don't beat yourself up. Accept your past mistakes as important learning points.
5. Do some things differently.

Question: How has discontent helped you change?

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June 2, 2005 at 2:30am

Ganesh Ram

That discontent can be a positive trigger is a useful view to keep. A note of caution: There is a thin line between letting it bog you down into a negative thought spiral and letting it act as a catalyst for positive action. I think the trick is to have an overall optimism on the longer term and Life (in uppercase) while becoming dissatisfied about events and situations in life (in lowercase).

June 2, 2005 at 2:26pm

Roger Fulton

In this age of violence, it comes all too easily, telling one's spouse that you ae cheating on him (her) isn't recommended. As a former counselor, I am reminded of the Arabian homily, "when you tell the truth, you should have one foot in the stirrup."
Not good. Dangerous time. Find another way to vent your guilt. Ah well, we are all different, aren't we? I am bewildered by people who say, " I just have to be HONEST" Their eyes are usually hot, red and bulging when they say that.